DEFINITION OF A FAMILY

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Once, I had asked one simple question to all the connections of my social media. The question was – “What is your own definition of a Family?!!” And I was so pleased to get the lovely answers from the beautiful people all across the world…

The definition statements of the beautiful answers were coded by such a bold & pretty words like – Love, Care, Fun, World, Life, Garden, Help, Warmth, Comfort, Understanding, Giant Shock absorber, Special and LOYAL (according to me the most Important factor required to build a Family)…

From the all responses, below are the few lines I loved the most:

Where people can be their OWN self…
Where you FORGET your troubles…
You know that everything will be ALRIGHT…
A group of people not necessarily BLOOD related…
May not understand & agree all the time, but CARE enough…
HELP each other, even when angry…
Help each other to be BETTER…
Understand that - EACH member is special…
Where people DON’T know to be selfish, even if they WANT to…

Just WOW!!! What an explanation and what are the wonderful thoughts… I honor such spirit of love and care towards the term Family. And I’m sincerely Thankful for all of them who replied to my question. This reminds me one inspiring quote on ‘Family’ by Osho - “The whole earth is our home and all of life is our family.”

But if we come to the world of ruthless reality, most of the people are not comfortable with their own ‘so called family’. Open up a newspaper and you’ll find where one family member is doing worse to the other one. Not only through the newspaper; you might have seen, heard and even been with such egoistic & negative people. And the reason behind this ego of these negative people; is just because someone got succeeded in the life, someone is happy in being who they are, someone is too young to understand what should not be done morally, someone did something good in their own way of life, or something happened, which they didn’t expect…

There are some factors which are undoubtedly stuck with the Family – Discomfort, Ego, Power, Selfishness, Money, Properties, Melodrama, Jealousy, Insecurity, Cheat, Hate, Harass, Hurt, ABUSE, and the worst ever MURDER & RAPE… In such a cruel world it is so difficult to consider the whole earth as our home and all the life on earth as our family. A very few ‘Great Soul’ like Mother Teresa & Mahatma Gandhi can have such kind, loving & peaceful living…

You have to keep in mind that - Negativity itself is a magnet. It is definitely going to attract you. There is one common saying in Gujarati language “Sang Evo Rang” (Meaning: You become the person you are being with daily). So beware of those egoistic & negative people in your Family. You can’t become one of them in the process of making such people positive… You have to be true to your own feelings… You’ll have to be strong and brave enough to be with yourself… Always do your best to support and create happiness to your family, but not at the cost of destroying your own soul… Do not avoid your own feelings in serving and being fit to someone’s expectations… To be true to yourself, sometimes you need to fight the most difficult battle against your own family…

This reminds me one of my favorite Bhajan, which says a lot about being rigorously stuck to the truthfulness even if your family is against you. The bold words of that Bhajan are:

Naarayan nu naam j leta vaare tene tajiye re …
Mansa, Vaacha, Karmana kari ne; Laxmi var ne bhajiye re …
Pratham Pita Prahlaad e tajiya, Nav tajiyu Hari naam re …
Bharat, Shatrughna e tyaji Janeta, Nav tajiya Shree Ram re …

(Meaning: Get separated from those individuals who promote you not to worship Narayan (Lord Krishna) …
You should worship God through your thoughts, talks and deeds…
Prahlaad was the first son to depart from his father, because he didn’t want to stop worshipping Lord Krishna…
Bharat & Shatrughna were the first sons to depart from their mother, because they didn’t want to stop loving & supporting Lord Rama…)

If you are one of them who is having the immense feeling of ‘Let go!’, who is working hard to bring back softness in the relations, who is surviving and managing with such egoist people and sustaining the relation just because you don’t want to Lose them; then first of all tap your back. As the great poet Rumi has said - “Give up the drop, become the ocean”. You are striving to become an ocean of kindness. You are the person with a good heart and this world is in need of a beautiful human like you. Keep continue the act of kindness and don’t worry if no one is admiring it; because God is counting each act of yours… You are on the path to become a ‘Great Soul’.

Well, for me, the Real Family is where one is Praying God for another’s Goodness, where one is being Positive for another’s mistake, where one is truly Happy in another’s happiness, where one is smiling and working Hard for another’s smile, where one is peaceful and bringing Peace to another and where one is connected to the all the living things of the universe through the little deeds of kindness…

And I’m so Grateful to all such known and unknown family members of mine for being so kind and positive enough to inspire and serve the world to be a better place. God Bless You All… ad

Thank you so much Dear Reader, for spending your valuable time. Please Share this post to your connections and be a part of Positive Change. Keep Reading…

Your Friend Always…

Amee Darji

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