Once, I had
asked one simple question to all the connections of my social media. The
question was – “What is your own definition of a Family?!!” And I was so
pleased to get the lovely answers from the beautiful people all across the
world…
The
definition statements of the beautiful answers were coded by such a bold &
pretty words like – Love, Care, Fun, World, Life, Garden, Help, Warmth,
Comfort, Understanding, Giant Shock absorber, Special and LOYAL (according to
me the most Important factor required to build a Family)…
From the
all responses, below are the few lines I loved the most:
Where
people can be their OWN self…
Where you
FORGET your troubles…
You know
that everything will be ALRIGHT…
A group of
people not necessarily BLOOD related…
May not
understand & agree all the time, but CARE enough…
HELP each
other, even when angry…
Help each
other to be BETTER…
Understand
that - EACH member is special…
Where
people DON’T know to be selfish, even if they WANT to…
Just WOW!!!
What an explanation and what are the wonderful thoughts… I honor such spirit of
love and care towards the term Family. And I’m sincerely Thankful for all of
them who replied to my question. This reminds me one inspiring quote on
‘Family’ by Osho - “The whole earth is our home and all of life is our family.”
But if we
come to the world of ruthless reality, most of the people are not comfortable
with their own ‘so called family’. Open up a newspaper and you’ll find where
one family member is doing worse to the other one. Not only through the
newspaper; you might have seen, heard and even been with such egoistic &
negative people. And the reason behind this ego of these negative people; is
just because someone got succeeded in the life, someone is happy in being who
they are, someone is too young to understand what should not be done morally,
someone did something good in their own way of life, or something happened, which
they didn’t expect…
There are
some factors which are undoubtedly stuck with the Family – Discomfort, Ego,
Power, Selfishness, Money, Properties, Melodrama, Jealousy, Insecurity, Cheat,
Hate, Harass, Hurt, ABUSE, and the worst ever MURDER & RAPE… In such a
cruel world it is so difficult to consider the whole earth as our home and all
the life on earth as our family. A very few ‘Great Soul’ like Mother Teresa
& Mahatma Gandhi can have such kind, loving & peaceful living…
You have to
keep in mind that - Negativity itself is a magnet. It is definitely going to
attract you. There is one common saying in Gujarati
language “Sang Evo Rang” (Meaning:
You become the person you are being with daily). So beware of those egoistic
& negative people in your Family. You can’t become one of them in the
process of making such people positive… You have to be true to your own
feelings… You’ll have to be strong and brave enough to be with yourself… Always
do your best to support and create happiness to your family, but not at the
cost of destroying your own soul… Do not avoid your own feelings in serving and
being fit to someone’s expectations… To
be true to yourself, sometimes you need to fight the most difficult battle
against your own family…
This
reminds me one of my favorite Bhajan,
which says a lot about being rigorously stuck to the truthfulness even if your
family is against you. The bold words of that Bhajan are:
Naarayan nu naam j leta vaare tene tajiye re
…
Mansa, Vaacha, Karmana kari ne; Laxmi var ne
bhajiye re …
Pratham Pita Prahlaad e tajiya, Nav tajiyu
Hari naam re …
Bharat, Shatrughna e tyaji Janeta, Nav tajiya
Shree Ram re …
(Meaning:
Get separated from those individuals who promote you not to worship Narayan (Lord Krishna) …
You should
worship God through your thoughts, talks and deeds…
Prahlaad was the first son to depart from his father, because he didn’t
want to stop worshipping Lord Krishna…
Bharat & Shatrughna were
the first sons to depart from their mother, because they didn’t want to stop
loving & supporting Lord Rama…)
If you are
one of them who is having the immense feeling of ‘Let go!’, who is working hard
to bring back softness in the relations, who is surviving and managing with
such egoist people and sustaining the relation just because you don’t want to
Lose them; then first of all tap your back. As the great poet Rumi has said -
“Give up the drop, become the ocean”. You are striving to become an ocean of
kindness. You are the person with a good heart and this world is in need of a
beautiful human like you. Keep continue
the act of kindness and don’t worry if no one is admiring it; because God is
counting each act of yours… You are on the path to become a ‘Great Soul’.
Well, for
me, the Real Family is
where one is Praying God for another’s Goodness, where one is being Positive
for another’s mistake, where one is truly Happy in another’s happiness, where
one is smiling and working Hard for another’s smile, where one is peaceful and
bringing Peace to another and where one is connected to the all the living things
of the universe through the little deeds of kindness…
And I’m so
Grateful to all such known and unknown family members of mine for being so kind
and positive enough to inspire and serve the world to be a better place. God
Bless You All… ad
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Your Friend
Always…
Amee Darji
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